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Tis The Season, Don’t be a Hangry Man or Woman

What a fun filled christmas shopping day with my sis!  The sun was shinning, bells were ringing and this was exactly what I needed!  I love shopping!  Who doesn’t?

“The best of all gifts around any Christmas tree:  the presence of a happy family all wrapped up in each other.”  ~Burton Hillis


“You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.” Bruce Lee~

I stood, watched the water burst up and go under!  It enlightens, steadies my soul, makes me ponder.  I wish to be like water, formless and free.


Christmas Gift Suggestions:
To your enemy, forgiveness.
To an opponent, tolerance.
To a friend, your heart.
To a customer, service.
To all, charity.
To every child, a good example.
To yourself, respect.” ~Oren Arnold
Mixed with a variation of gifts equals the “Perfect Christmas Giving List!” 


“When people you greatly admire appear to be thinking deep thoughts, they probably are thinking about lunch.”~ Douglas Adams
 After a long shopping day, Hangry set in, yikes!  Time for a quick Salad MYKONOS did the trick!

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“I always say shopping is cheaper than a psychiatrist.” ~Tammy Faye Bakker 

Especially with friends or family!  Whats on your shopping list?  Either way, make it “Awesome!”  Dive In and have fun friends!

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Thanks for reading 🙂



This piece is dedicated to the beautiful, graceful, down to earth, funny, spunky, talented, passionate, adventurous, courageous lady in my life, my daughter!  Thank You for loving me unconditionally and teaching me so much even in times of chaos!   Thank You for being Awesome and Amazing!















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Love always Mama

Frustrated Sister

I’m tired, frustrated and annoyed with partners, friends, family, colleagues, etc!  They cant seem to grasp the warm-hearted, demonstrative relationship my sister and I carry for one another!  No need to state names.  Let me explain by breaking our relationship down in 5 areas:


  1. The Pack: When my mother’s papers were approved to travel/reside in the United States.  She made a life changing decision. She left us behind!  Her intentions, pure!  While gone, sis and I engaged in extreme discipline, physical, mental and verbal abuse from others.  We survived ! We made a pack to never abandon one another.

  2. Twin Bed, 2 Sisters:  We slept in the same bed together for 16 years. Not as easy as it reads.  We adjusted to each others negatives and positives (snoring, tossing, turning, drooling, late sleeper, early sleeper, heavy sleeper, light sleeper, etc) doing this humbled us to accept not change.

  3.    Twin Clothing, Different Colors:  When mom went shopping.  She bought the same items, in different colors.  If she bought my sister a gift, she’d be sure to have something in hand for me also.  The only time gifts were given to one sibling, on Birthdays.  She knew how to keep the peace. Smart woman!

  4. Love Is God: A great commandment, “Love thy neighbor as yourself.” This reads differently.   To me it states: approach people, situations, life with love!  The return brings positive experiences, relationships, etc.  That’s our motto!  We slip up once in a while but we push forward and keep loving.

  5. Acceptance: My sister excepts my bratty, controlling, intro-extrovert borderline personality, perfectionist, potty mouth characteristic.  I except her flirty, creative, heroic, hot tempered, party animal, characteristics.  The list is exceedingly long!  No matter the negative/positive we accept each other.  If you truly love someone, you will allow them to be who they are!  Not what you’d like them to be!

To be blunt, stop the jealousy!  Stop trying to win us over! Stop whispering in our ears, behind our backs “Your sister is lazy.  She hogs all the attention.  You’re the pretty one! You’re the sexy one!  Your awesome when she’s not around, etc!”  Partners, friends, colleagues! We are not a prize to be conquered!  

Moreover, we are willing to let everyone in! Together or separate!   My sister is who she is and I am who I am!   Years of humility, self love and selflessness taught us to love and embrace, life, people and each other! We’d love to share that with everyone.  So before you say something negative to me about my sister!  Take a look in the mirror and judge yourself! 

Stop Bullying

“I am who I am! You are who you are! We are who we are!”


Walking through a high school hallway I see so many different faces, clothes, bodies.  I also feel multiple vibes; negative, and positive, insecurities, and confidence, also, happiness and sadness.  It is worse than walking up and down Soho in New York City.  It is extremely overwhelming, and sometimes it can be intimidating and scary.  High school is that place where you find out who you are deep inside and what that “inner you” will become in the future.  The human mind stereotypes and judges every little thing that does not coincide with what they think is normal.  Instead of high school it should be called, judge school, or gossip school.  Unfortunately, that is, what it is all about, of course with the exception of you learning everything to get into college.  What’s the big question; why are teenager so MEAN?  Is it insecurities and changes in ourselves that make us go mad?  Or is it just fun to put people down?  I have been trying to figure this out since eighth grade.  I have witnessed people being bullied and tormented and I get a greater sense of fear and insecurity from the bully than the victim.  I have put so many bullies in their place and scorned their strategies.  Most of them stop, and some just do it more.  I want to keep this short and easy I don’t want to be one of those people who go on and on about why bullying is bad.  To each is own and no one should be judged for that!

All I have to say is don’t do it, don’t be that of few people that judges someone and their inner and outer person.  It is wrong and you pick up on why with your own experiences.  Some experiences good and others bad, you might just learn because you become a bully or a unfortunately, a victim.  Everything happens for a reason, and that happening with the reason is a lesson learned for everyone.

“I don’t do that here no do I tolerate it!  Whether friend or foe! Don’t bully, and stop bullying!”

Writer: Yanique Bland

A friend and Mirror Lake

TheDriveToday, normal and agenda set!  A friend and I then decided to take a drive up to Mirror Lake!  When life’s stresses call, friends calm the situation while adding fun, scenery and sincere listening to the pot!  Producing a succulent, tasty, flavor filled meal for the soul and heart!  I haven’t seen him or spent time together for a while, due to our selfish ways & aggressive parting, so this meant a lot.   As we drove up the cold, isolated road toward Mirror Lake, we stopped along the way to capture pictures of aspens, pines and snowy mountains! A beautiful site to see!  We talked about life! How we’ve both matured in ways beyond us!  The turmoil, heartache of failed relationships and failed parenting! How they affect our everyday lives and the acceptance we’ve been looking for!  Though we’ve found exceptance and love within ourselves and we keep growing every day.  Its always good to look back, reminisce, laugh, smile, joke, cry, state the what if’s, accept the negative, be realistic and move on.

You see, we both come from abusive backgrounds.  Which kept us tied to isolation, alienation from social events and people for many years!  Not because we choose to but because what others viewed as normal, feels out of place, weird to us!  When a child is traumatized mentally, physically, etc approaching a situation whatever that may be (social, intimate, etc) is never normal!  It’s always awkward!

After chit chatting, laughing, taking in beautiful scenery, my heart revealed how blessed I am, we are!  Blessed to have so many amazing inspiring, beautiful, fun loving people in my life!  A true friend/love no matter the pain, hurt, turmoil which was caused always finds a road back to each other.  Our beautiful hearts unstained and love for each other unconditional.  Cherish, embrace and remember the good times and learn from the bad!  Love your friends, Love yourself!


Construct Your Reality Quote

I’ve been given bricks!  These bricks represent my talents, passions, true life journey! Building brick by brick takes discipline, courage to fail but I learn from these failures, push forward and keep building!

Keep this quote in mind:
“A solid foundation is key!  Passion, dedication no hesitation!  Brick by brick, never stop building!  Construct your reality!”

Originality Quote

Make the day count, be you! Originality makes you who you are!

Quote Monday:

“You’re beautiful, like a snowflake! No two are alike! Being you, unique and different! Leads you to fall into your destiny, like snowflakes do! Dive In.”